Contact...

Try this. Stop contacting people with whom you have been in fairly constant contact with for the last litle while. See if they contact you. I tried this. The results have been nothing short of astounding in some cases. There is a handful of people some distance away, who have stopped contacting me entirely except for special occasions such as Christmas,birthday, etc.

When I was initiating contact with them fairly frequently, I always had a sense that they were in touch with me as well. That was never the case at any time. I just didn't realize it. I was so caught up in the relationship of conversation,people,and news that it never occurred to me that those few didn't want to initiate a relationship, they were just responding
to my attempts to build a relationship over time.

It is a realization not without regret. This lack of reciprocal contact has helped me to understand what performance based relationships are all about. If I am not deemed worthy of their "life code" for me then I will receive less contact.You falter in their eyes...you're out or at least diminished.

Presently,I am still hopeful, but,as they say, reality and time reveal the truth about any relationship...